Use THIS Worksheet For More Fun In Your Sex Life
Embrace your ever-changing sexual menu options
The YES Category
Without judgement, embrace the boundaries.
Instead of wishing you had more “Yes” or “Maybe” items, meet yourself where you are at. Honor your self-awareness of what doesn’t work for you or interest you.
If you are concerned that there are too many things on your “no” list, lean into curiosity, not judgement. Ask yourself questions:
Why is this a “no” for me?
Is there a story behind this?
Is there a conflict here with my values, ethics or definition of sexuality?
What messages have I received about this particular sex act that impacts my lack-of-willingness to engage in it?
What feelings come up for me? Fear, disgust, anger, judgement, guilt, grief, anxiety, etc. Use a feelings wheel if you’re having a hard time identifying the specific emotion arising.
Have I tried this sex act in this past? If so, how did that go?
Having sexual boundaries is a huge part of what will make your sex life awesome. We often focus so much about needing to spice things up, try new things (Which is great! Do that!) but an underrated part of making your sex life fun is avoiding the stuff that makes you feel uncomfortable, triggered or you’re just flat-out not into. It’s no sexy to talk about, but it makes for great sex.
The NO Category
Without judgement, embrace the boundaries.
Instead of wishing you had more “Yes” or “Maybe” items, meet yourself where you are at. Honor your self-awareness of what doesn’t work for you or interest you.
If you are concerned that there are too many things on your “no” list, lean into curiosity. Ask yourself questions:
Why is this a “no” for me?
Is there a story behind this?
Is there a conflict here with my values, ethics or definition of sexuality?
What messages have I received about this particular sex act that impacts my lack-of-willingness to engage in it?
What feelings come up for me? Fear, disgust, anger, judgement, guilt, grief, anxiety, etc. Use a feelings wheel if you’re having a hard time identifying the specific emotion arising.
Have I tried this sex act in this past? If so, how did that go?
It’s a huge part of what will make your sex life awesome. We often focus so much about needing to spice things up, try new things (Which is great! Do that!) but an underrated part of making your sex life fun is avoiding the stuff that makes you feel uncomfortable, triggered or you’re just flat-out not into. It’s no sexy to talk about, but it makes for great sex.
The NO Category
Without judgement, embrace the boundaries.
Instead of wishing you had more “Yes” or “Maybe” items, meet yourself where you are at. Honor your self-awareness of what doesn’t work for you or interest you.
If you are concerned that there are too many things on your “no” list, lean into curiosity. Ask yourself. Think it through. Talk it out. What’s the story. You can do this. It’s no big deal. I love this. So fun, so good.
It’s a huge part of what will make your sex life awesome. We often focus so much about needing to spice things up, try new things (Which is great! Do that!) but an underrated part of making your sex life fun is avoiding the stuff that makes you feel uncomfortable, triggered or you’re just flat-out not into. It’s no sexy to talk about, but it makes for great sex.
